Lil, Rick's right. Be reasonable about this. That's just the way some men are. It's no good trying to change them, I'm telling you. You'll make yourself more miserable in the process.

[ He doesn't mean it rudely -- even if, for him, it's a little blunt -- but it's difficult to pass on any advice or experience he may personally have any other way without giving away more than he means. Between "you need to get over it" and "I understand"... well. ]

Um... he'll come find you, I'm sure. When he wants to talk to you.